The Issue of Child Abuse: What We Should Do

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11/5/2012 4:06 PM  RssIcon

by Karla Kellam

Don't allow child abuse. We have been following 10 year old Abdifatah Mohamed's murder since April. Just this month, justice for him was finally achieved when his stepfather was found guilty. The prosecutor plans to ask for the maximum sentence of 25 years to life. In the meantime, we learned about another case of a seven year old boy, Yaseen, who was beaten to death “like a dog” by his mother Sara for failing to learn enough Qur'an during a Hafiz program. She is now on trial along with her husband in Wales (UK) for his murder.

While situations like this that lead to murder are rare, Alhamdullilah, reports of parents beating children over learning Qur'an or praying are sadly not. What must a child think if she is beaten because she does not pray? Will she look to prayers with anticipation and joy? What must a child think if he is beaten because he has not learned enough Qur'an? Will he grow to love or resent the Qur'an? Over two decades of research has shown that spanking is not only not effective long-term, but it can also cause long-term negative affects on children. 'One study found “some 70% of child abuse cases were attempts to discipline through the use of physical punishment that escalated out of control.” If there is such a risk of physical punishment leading to abuse, then we need to look for other non-physical discipline methods for raising children.

We'd like to start a discussion on this. Will you join us? Will you share with us your stories (anonymous) of abusive child raising practices (emotional & physical) so that we can prevent a future generation from experiencing this? How were you raised? How did it affect your faith, relationship with your parents, self-esteem, etc.? Post a comment below or email us your story at MyStory@projectsakinah.org You can also email us at the same address if you'd like to be a part of Project Sakinah's child abuse team.


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