These attributes in a
marriage really kill the relationship. Based on decades of very rigorous social
science, Gottman's insights are extremely useful. As an introduction to his work,
or just as a friendly reminder, this short, 2 minute video is worth watching. Conflict
occurs in all marriages. There are many ways couples can handle it in a healthy
fashion --but if one or more of the "four horsemen" show up in conflicts in your
relationship -- there's serious trouble that needs to be addressed, and may require
professional help to do so.