Author: Karla Kellam Created: 11/27/2012 2:08 PM
I look at the issues of family violence through a revert's eyes.
Posted by Karla Kellam on 9/27/2013 8:37 AM

Indian film makers are tackling child abuse in an innovative way... by releasing educational videos to YouTube.  One of these was made by documentary film maker, Sanjay Kumar Singh, and is called "Chuppi Todo" (Break the Silence.)

Posted by Karla Kellam on 9/20/2013 8:24 AM

A man in Utah did not lose custody of his children, even though they had been beaten with an electrical cord, due to cultural differences. Whose responsibility is it to educate new immigrants as to cultural norms regarding child discipline, treatment of spouses, etc.?

Posted by Karla Kellam on 4/9/2013 8:03 AM

Setting standards for media consumption can make it easier for families to guard their eyes and ears.

Posted by Karla Kellam on 2/7/2013 9:35 AM
Although many Muslims do not celebrate Valentine's Day, seeing all the hearts and romantic gifts can get single Muslims to start thinking about finding a spouse. Often today’s modern Muslim woman thinks she doesn’t need a wali—especially if she’s older or a revert.The concept of having a “guardian” can brush up against a woman’s desire to make her own decision. For reverts, the default wali choice is often their Imam—who they may or may not be comfortable with. Yet, the Muslim concept of a wali, or guardian, makes a lot of sense—especially if one is trying to find a spouse through the most popular choice today, online matrimonial sites.

E-Walis are Good For:

* Reverts/Converts to Islam

* Older Muslims seeking a spouse (including those who are widowed/divorced)

* Younger Muslims who may be trying to find their own match without parental influence

So what’s an e-wali? Simply another pair of eyes that you would carbon copy (CC) or blind carbon copy (BCC) on all of your correspondence between potential...
Posted by Karla Kellam on 1/16/2013 3:27 PM
It didn't receive the nationwide media attention it should have, but this week a Muslim Mom and her daughter went through a harrowing experience.  A little five year old girl was abducted from her school in Philadelphia.  Alhamdullilah, she was found alive, roughly 20 hours later, the next morning.  She was shivering in the 30 degree temperature in nothing but a shirt at a local playground.  Only Allah(swt) knows what that poor little girl went through during that time.

Her Mom wears the abaya and often the niqab.  The abductor knew this, and also wore an abaya and niqab.  The substitute teacher (being a substitute) did not know the Mom, and believed the woman when she said that she had already signed the girl out--letting her go.  Nobody knew the little girl had been abducted until it came time for the girl to go home--six hours later.

It's obvious...
Posted by Karla Kellam on 1/15/2013 9:37 AM
Financial reasons are one of the main reasons why domestic violence survivors return to an abusive spouse.  Because of that, having a financial plan for your future can be key.  Here are five tips that you can implement.  Working with your local domestic violence shelter, you can help develop a more robust plan.

1) If possible, have copies of all important papers and financial documents stored in a safe location outside of your home.  This can be with a friend/family member or in a safe deposit box at a bank.  Include birth certificates, passports, social security cards, mortgage documents, bank account numbers or statements (if e-statements print them out if you do not fear your home computer activity is being monitored), credit card numbers and statements, student loan documents, etc.  If your spouse controls these documents, work safely and slowly to get copies and have them sent directly to your P.O. box.

2) Start saving something--even $10--weekly towards your financial independence.  There...

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