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Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse - Breaking Down Barriers

7/26/2015

This resource is a blog for Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse. There are still many barriers to men speaking up of their own experiences in this regard, though it is believed about 1 in 6 males in the US experience it (as do about 1 in 5 females. A lot of work remains to be done in this area, and it yet another way in which men need to step up and participate in the struggle against all forms of family violence.  Read More 

The Beginning Over Foundation

7/26/2015

This is a resource of value to survivors of domestic violence and domestic homicide, and I encourage Muslim survivors to utilize this and other resources like it as we strengthen our own Muslim institutions in the social services fields.  Read More 

Older People Surviving Child Sexual Abuse

7/19/2015

Important points are made in this discussion of older people surviving child sexual abuse. The mental and emotional challenges that surviving such experiences present can present decades after the abuse itself.... though it is not always the case that older survivors will go through flashbacks or other trauma symptoms.

I don't know how many of you may have been surprised by the strength of the feelings expressed in the media by survivors of sexual assault by Bill Cosby whose abuse had happened decades before. This article helps to explain how the damage can last a lifetime --- and the suffering can recur decades later.

Check out Pandora's Project (www.pandys.org ) which has support and resources for survivors of rape and sexual abuse.  Read More 


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Over half of 6000 teens in AMA study say rape is sometimes acceptable.

7/19/2015

Here is a reasonably detailed article regarding the victims of sexual abuse. Many important points are made concisely. One fact that stunned me, was that in an American Medical Association study, over half the 6000 teenagers stated that there were some circumstances under which rape was acceptable. The article also has a section on the sexual molestation of children, and a link for support groups for those who are victims of sexual abuse.  Read More 


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Researcher discusses complications of sexual abuse within families

7/12/2015

A brief article discussing some of the complexities of dealing with sexual abuse during families. The Director of the Crimes Against Children Research Center, David Finkelhor points to their new study that 1 in 4 17-yr old girls in the US has been sexually assaulted or abused. While noting that things are changing within the mainstream culture -- a lot more education is necessary, and in the end -- every parent must be aware of the signs their child is being abused..... Check out also Project Sakinah's discussion of some of the signs a child is being sexually abused.  Here is the link to the source article 


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New Program Aims to Inspire Healthy College Relationships

7/12/2015

Here's further evidence of increased attention regarding healthy relationships in college. An online class is now a requirement for all incoming students at the University of Cincinnati.  Read More 


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Healthy relationships: Federal measure targets sex crimes

7/12/2015

The importance of learning about healthy relationships is being recognized at the highest levels of government -- there’s a bill before the US Senate about advancing education in the “Teach Safe Relationships Act.” In spite of this welcome level of activity, the fact remains that one cannot rely simply upon “the experts” to raise our children and teach them what they need to know about relationships between the genders.  Read More 


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Healthy Relationships 101: Relationships Don't Have to be so Difficult

7/03/2015

Michael Jascz' message is that healthy relationships are based on increasing awareness of our behavior -- and that developing this greater awareness doesn't have to be so difficult. Published as an eBook and available for $2.99 -- it is a good, brief introduction to the fundamentals -- and worth having a look at even for social workers and others trained to help others in these issues.  Read More 


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Sexual Abuse Statistics

7/01/2015

The statistics on the sexual abuse of children are sickening, and sobering. Just a couple you may not be aware of -- 1 in five children are solicited sexually while on the internet -- and an average serial child molester may have as many as 400 victims in his lifetime -- with consequences that persist throughout the lives of his victims. Angel Roar is a website that aims to teach kids about the child abuse epidemic and the importance of disclosure and to assist parents in understanding how common the problem of child abuse really is and hope to cope with a child abuse incident.  Read More 


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Sexual Abuse Allegations Against Imam Stir Rifts in Illinois Community

2/14/2015

Sexual abuse allegations and a planned lawsuit against Mohammad Abdullah Saleem in Elgin have divided segments of the imam’s followers and those in the community who reject the idea that the case should be handled privately.

This article raises many of the points that are common to such incidents. For our community to be able to speak about the best way to deal with such allegations is not a sign of weakness, but of strength. It is vital that victims in such cases not be shamed by community biases into silence, since the impacts of sexual abuse can plague victims for a lifetime.  Read More 


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One Love Foundation - In honor of Yeardley Reynolds Love

2/2/2015

In The One Love Foundation was created in honor of Yeardley Love. Our mission is to end Relationship Violence through education and technology.

This is precisely the kind of innovative thinking that makes a creative use of technology to address a challenging situation -- getting women in danger to understand their situation, and linking them with train advocates for support. Read More 


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20 questions saving thousands of domestic violence victims' lives

2/2/2015

In Shelby County gives survey to domestic violence victims to help save their lives.

This simple assessment can help women suffering abuse understand more quickly how much danger there is in their relationship. It is used in hundreds of cities nationwide, and is highly effective. Read More 


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20 Signs of Unresolved Trauma

2/2/2015

In Even if the memories of abuse are hidden from the survivor’s awareness, blocked trauma / unresolved trauma creates very noticeable and obvious symptoms that can be easily seen in their every day life.

The impacts of trauma can persist for a lifetime, and even those who have sought out treatment may not have completely resolved the traumatic experiences. Knowing the signs is a good first step. Read More 


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Our Sons and Porn :: Noble Mother

1/31/2015

In Have you spoken to your kids about porn? We simply have to become more vigilant about the risks our children face in our technological civilization. Read More 


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Why do some people still think domestic violence is justified?

1/21/2015

In Mali, 60% of women with no education agree that a husband is right to beat his wife

When we call again and again for people to speak up, it is in part because we have to really talk to each other about difficult issues, like that fact presented here that in Mali, 60% of uneducated women believe a husband has a right to beat his wife.  Read More 


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Jury selection starts Tuesday for trial in slaying of mom on Boonton street

1/20/2015

In a case that attracted national attention, Parvaiz told investigators in a recorded statement that the shots came from a group of three men who called them terrorists.

As jury selection begins in the trail of Kashif Parvaiz for the murder of Nazish Noorani, the assertions made by the defendant show just how out-of-touch with reality Mr. Parvaiz seems to be.  Read More 


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To My Porn-Watching Dad, From Your Daughter

1/16/2015

This daughter's letter to her porn-watching dad is heartbreaking, but every dad should read it.

Watching porn affects more than the viewer.  Read More


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Peering inside a batterer’s mind – – and his victim’s soul

1/2/2015

The story of suspended NFL player Ray Rice raised the question: What goes on in the mind of a batterer? A man who’s abused opens up. So does his victim.

We often aren’t aware of how things look to a batterer. This article narrates one man’s story, and how he came to change. He worked with Men Stopping Violence, an Atlanta group that has trained Muslims for this work.  Read More


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‘Heartsick’ Elias-case judge challenges domestic-violence myths: Guest opinion

11/20/2014

By Judge Amy Holmes Hehn On Nov. 10, Ian Elias kicked in the door of the home of his ex-wife, Nicolette Elias, and shot her to death with a handgun. He took their two young daughters to his home where...

The ‘heartsick’ judge's plea: Wake UP! “First we must shatter our myths and biases about domestic violence.” Preventing violence in families is not easy, and sometimes a tragedy takes place even when ‘the System’ is functioning. Read this judge’s plea, share it with your friends, start a conversation about it -- it's everyone’s responsibility.  Read More


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This is Why Childhood Psychological Abuse Should Be As Taboo as Sexual or Physical Abuse — PsyBlog

11/12/2014

Large new study reveals just how harmful psychological abuse in childhood can be.

The evidence just keeps on accumulating: psychological abuse can be as harmful, or even MORE harmful, than physical. We can all do better at controlling our tongues.  Read More


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Kids punished with guilt have trouble with adult relationships - study

11/09/2014

Parental psychological control, such as withholding love or fostering anxiety, has a negative effect on their childrens’ future friendships.

This study gives us yet another reason to take ourselves to account regarding the way we parent.

“Over all, we found that the more psychological control youth experienced from parents, the less likely they were to express their own opinions, give reasons why they felt that way and do so in a warm, collaborative way.”
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Janay isn’t leaving Ray Rice: Domestic violence victims often don’t

September 10, 2014

It may not be obvious, but it is important to realize: “Victims of domestic violence and intimate partner abuse do not stay with or protect their abusers because they are gold diggers or because they are stupid or because they are masochists. Victims of abuse stay with their abusers due to biological, chemical, psychological, and societal factors.”

Baltimore Raven’s player Ray Rice offered a public apology to his fans yesterday for knocking unconscious his then-fiancée and now-wife, Janay Rice, inside an Atlantic City casino elevator back in February 2014. Although the direct aftermath of the third-degree assault against Janay was caught on casino security cameras, Ray pled not guilty and will not face prosecution due to completing a pre-trial intervention program for first-time offenders.

Many question why Janay remains by the football player’s side.  Read More


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Marriage for Allah

April 21, 2014

On April 19, a workshop on Islamic marriage in the western world was presented at Dartmouth College by Project Sakinah's Anas Coburn. Hosted by Al-Nur, the Dartmouth College MSA, the well-attended event comprised two presentations: “Before the Wedding,” which provided a framework of preparation for the unmarried, and “Happily Ever After,” which was structured to address married couples.

“Before the Wedding” included discussion of the special challenges facing Muslims who wish to marry in the United States, as well as the process of preparing for marriage, and how one makes the right decision concerning marriage. “Happily Ever After” included discussion of challenges to Muslim Marriages in the United States, why marriages go stale and how to keep them fresh, and how to deal more effectively with conflict in marriage.

Discussion of various issues raised was frank and heartfelt, and participants at both events reported finding the presentations and discussions relevant and practical.  Read More


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Gathering honors memory of Boonton murder victim Nazish Noorani

August 19, 2013

Gathering honors memory of Boonton murder victim

Boonton – Some 150 people gathered at the Jam-e-Masjid Islamic Center Saturday to memorialize Nazish Noorani, the 27-year-old mother gunned down on Cedar Street two years ago after leaving a family Ramadan gathering.

In a related forum, activists from Muslim anti-domestic violence groups spoke and a dozen people signed up to create a Project Sakinah Boonton Team. Their mission is to raise consciousness and educate the local community on healthy family interventions that could save lives.

“When we meet next August to honor Nazish’s memory, let’s review the progress that’s been made,” said Zerqa Abid, national campaign manager for Project Sakinah, who flew in for the event.  Read More


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Turning Point for Women and Families Receives Community Health Prize from Hunter College

June 07, 2013
Turning Point for Women and Families

Turning Point for Women

(New York, NY – June 7, 2013) –Hunter College President Jennifer J. Raab hosted a ceremony at Hunter’s Roosevelt House Public Policy Institute to announce the recipients of the third annual Joan H. Tisch Community Health Prize. The 2013 recipients are Turning Point for Women and Families, Independence Care System’s (ICS) Breast Cancer Screening Project for Women with Physical Disabilities, and Robert Cordero, Executive Director of Citi Wide Harm Reduction. The prize, which was presented June 6that Roosevelt House, is administered by Hunter College and is awarded to not-for-profit organizations and individuals for distinguished accomplishment in the field of urban public health.

The Joan H. Tisch Community Health Prize is a component of the Joan H. Tisch Legacy Project, based at Hunter College and made possible with a five-year grant of over $1 million from her children Steve Tisch, Laurie M. Tisch, and Lizzie and Jonathan Tisch. The other components are the Joan H. Tisch Distinguished Fellowship in Public Health and the Joan H. Tisch Public Health Forum. Turning Point for Women and Families is a grassroots, community-based organization in Queens addressing the needs of Muslim women and children through crisis intervention, individual and group counseling, advocacy, outreach, education and training. Responding to the wide gap between needs and services available to the Muslim community, it offers culturally competent services, especially in the area of domestic violence. Its Youth Program offers Muslim girls leadership trainings and a supportive peer network through which they build their self-confidence. It has served over 750 Muslim women, girls and children since its inception in 2004, most of them recent immigrants, coming from over 30 different countries.

“As a Hunter graduate, I am deeply honored that my alma mater has chosen to recognize a small, grassroots organization like Turning Point for Women and Families,” said Robina Niaz, Executive Director of Turning Point for Women and Families. “It reflects the commitment of both the Tisch Family and Hunter College to New York’s growing immigrant population and to helping address the complex issues each community faces. Domestic violence is a problem that every community faces and has far reaching effects on health. Turning Point is the first non-profit to address domestic violence in the Muslim community and the Joan H. Tisch Health Prize sends a very positive message of support to our under-resourced community.”  Read More


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Project Sakinah exhibits at ICNA-MAS Convention

May 30, 2013
Project Sakinah National

By the grace of Allah almighty, we reached hundreds of people at 2013 ICNA-MAS Annual Convention. The convention was held from May 25-28 in Hartford, CT. Zerqa Abid and Anas Coburn represented Project Sakinah in the convention. We distributed informative material produced by us and our collaborators to help build strong Muslim families and would stop family violence within our communities. As our coalition grows stronger, we hope to engage more of the community with increasing the increasing effectiveness necessary for long-term, sustainable change.


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Yaseen Ege, 7, Murdered for not Learning Quran Fast Enough.

January 07, 2013

Yaseen Eqe
Yaseen Ege was beaten to death by his mother before she burned

Yaseen Ege was a seven year old boy whose mother beat him "like a dog" (her own words) to death for not learning Qur'an fast enough. She was sentenced to 17 years in prison. The judge acknowledged that she was depressed, didn't intend to kill him, and was a victim of domestic violence herself. The judge even acknowledged that she was a devoted and caring Mom.

According to BBC, “She and her husband had enrolled Yaseen in advanced classes at their local mosque as they wanted him to become Hafiz - an Islamic term for someone who memorizes the Koran.

As a child Sara Ege had taken part in competitions showing her knowledge of Islam and had recited from the Koran. The court heard that she had become increasingly frustrated with her son's inability to learn the passages.

She told officers: "I was getting all this bad stuff in my head, like I couldn't concentrate, I was getting angry too much, I would shout at Yaseen all the time.

"I was getting very wild and I hit Yaseen with a stick on his back like a dog."  Read More


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NY stepfather gets 25 years to life in boy’s death

November 17, 2012

Ali Mohamed & Abdifatah Mohamud
Left, Ali Mohamed and right Abdifatah Mohamud

BUFFALO, N.Y. (AP) — A New York man was sentenced Thursday to the maximum 25 years-to-life prison for beating his 10-year-old stepson to death with a rolling pin.

A jury in Buffalo last month convicted Ali-Mohamed Mohamud of second-degree murder in a case Erie County District Attorney Frank Sedita III called one of the worst he had seen in 24 years as a prosecutor.

Mohamud, 41, shattered Abdifatah Mohamud’s skull with nearly 70 blows from the wooden rolling pin after gagging the boy with a sock and duct tape and binding his hands with an electrical cord. A medical examiner testified that the boy known as Abdi suffered four lethal injuries among wounds covering his entire body, including a blow to the head that had “internally decapitated” him, separating the skull from the spinal column.  Read More


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Kassim Alhimidi, Husband Of Shaima Alawadi, Pleads Not Guilty To Wife's Murder

By Julie Watson
November 14, 2012
Source: Huffington Post

EL CAJON, Calif. -- There were signs that her traditional Muslim family may have been struggling in the U.S. even before Shaima Alawadi was murdered: Court documents say she was contemplating a divorce, and her teenage daughter was resisting an arranged marriage.

Authorities initially believed Alawadi died as part of a hate crime. Now, they say the Iraqi-American woman was killed by her husband during a domestic dispute.

The suspect, Kassim Alhimidi, pleaded not guilty Tuesday to a murder charge during a brief appearance via a video monitor in Superior Court, where the couple's teenage daughter Fatima Alhimidi cried quietly in the courtroom in El Cajon.

Kassim Alhimidi was ordered held without bail after prosecutors noted he recently traveled to Iraq and was a flight risk. If convicted, he could face 25 years to life in prison.  Read More


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Judge Keeps Murder 1 Charge For Philadelphia Father Accused in Son’s Death

By Tony Hanson
July 31, 2012
Source: CBS - Philadelphia

PHILADELPHIA (CBS) — A Philadelphia judge has rejected a defense motion to dismiss the first-degree murder charge against a father embroiled in an horrific child abuse and neglect case.

Latiff Hadi and Tina Cuffie (also known as Floyd and Tina Wimes) are charged with the murder of their son earlier this year.

The medical examiner testified earlier that six-year-old Khalil Wimes had too many old and new injuries to count, and he had been starved. The boy weighed just 29 pounds when he died.  Read More


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Mother Sara Ege Guilty Of Murder Of Son Yaseen, 7, Beaten To Death For Not Learning Koran

A mother who beat her son to death for failing to learn the Koran by heart, murdered him and burned his body to hide the evidence, a jury has found.

Sara Ege, 33, treated son Yaseen like a "dog," brutally beating him with a stick for failing to memorise religious texts.

The bright seven-year-old died in July 2010 from internal injuries caused by three months of punishing beatings from his own mother.

His death was treated as a terrible tragedy in the aftermath of the blaze but it was quickly found he was dead before it was set.

Ege accused her own husband of being the real killer throughout her murder trial at Cardiff Crown Court.  Read More


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DHS Social Worker in Khalil Wimes Case Removed

By Mike Newall, Inquirer staff writer
April 25, 2012
Source: The Philadelphia Inquirer

The city removed a social worker from active casework Tuesday after The Inquirer revealed repeated failures by the city’s Department of Human Services to intervene in the ongoing abuse of 6-year-old Khalil Wimes that ended with his parents being charged with his murder.

In announcing the step involving the social worker, Mayor Nutter also said DHS would review all child-welfare cases handled by the worker and her supervisor.

“Our hearts are very heavy for Khalil,” Nutter said, adding, “We will conduct a complete review of everything that happened in this case. If systemic changes are required, we will make them.”  Read More


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Police to Investigate 911 Calls from Murder Victim

By Ed Reilly
April 25, 2012
Source: WKBW News

(Buffalo, NY) On the night of April 17th, Buffalo Police say 40-year old Ali Mohamad Mohamud tied up his step-son, stuffed a sock in his mouth, covered it with duct tape, then beat the fifth grade student to death.

An autopsy showed that 10-year old Abdifatah Mohamud died after being hit 70-times with a rolling pin.

His Somali step-father is now facing second degree murder charges, and is being held in custody after appearing in court for a felony hearing.

It is now being revealed, that over the past two years, several calls were made to 911 operators from the home were the young boy lived.

On at least two occasions, it is being reported that Abdifatah call 911 to complain that his step-father was harming him.

Police responded, but no one was arrested.  Read More


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How City Agencies Failed to Save 6-year-old Khalil

By Mike Newall, Inquirer Staff Writer
Date: April 24, 2012
Source: The Philadelphia Inquirer

When police arrested the parents of Khalil Wimes and accused them of starving and torturing their 6-year-old son to death, Mayor Nutter decried the boy's demise as tragic, but said the city could not have prevented it.

Philadelphia's Department of Human Services had no official oversight - no "open case" - for Khalil Wimes, the mayor stressed. "None," Nutter told reporters in March. "Next question."

In fact, Khalil had spent the final months of his life beaten, bone thin, desperately ill, and out of school - and DHS had failed to see what was right in front of it.

An Inquirer review of Khalil's death - including interviews with his siblings, foster parents, and other family members, and a review of police reports, court documents, and DHS files - found the city missed many chances to save him.  Read More


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Family of Slain Iraqi-American Woman Looking for Answers a Month Later

Written by Kristina Davis
April 24, 2012
Source: UT San Diego News

el cajon — The family of an Iraqi-American woman fatally beaten in her El Cajon home continues to wait for answers a month after her slaying.

El Cajon police have not announced any arrests or named any suspects in the killing of Shaima Alawadi, 32. The mother of five died a few days after she was found unconscious with a head injury in the dining room of her Skyview Street home on March 21.

Her sister Esmah Alawadi said Monday that the family continues to call detectives looking for updates but is told the case remains under investigation.

“We have not been sleeping at night. It’s 24 hours talking about it,” said Alawadi, who lives in Texas. “It’s restless. The only thing we want is justice now. We lost her, at least her kids (need to) know that (police) will take care of the person who did it.” Read More


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Family of Iraqi Woman Killed in California was in Crisis, Records Show

By Will Carless and Ian Lovett
Date: April 5, 2012
Source: The New York Times

EL CAJON, Calif. — When Shaima Alawadi, an Iraqi-born mother of five, was found bludgeoned to death in her home last month with a threatening note beside her, many members of the large Middle Eastern immigrant population here feared a hate crime.

But court documents made public this week instead reveal details of a family in crisis, with talk of divorce and a daughter resisting an arranged marriage, and of Ms. Alawadi’s survivors themselves coming under scrutiny from investigators.

From the beginning, the El Cajon police maintained that a hate crime was only one of the possibilities they were exploring. The search warrant affidavit, which was released by mistake to the Web site U-T San Diego on Wednesday and then to other media outlets on Thursday, revealed that the police obtained warrants to search the family’s house and two cars, as well as their phones.  Read More


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Shaima Alawadi Dead: Iraqi Woman Who Was Severely Beaten In California Home Dies

March 24, 2012
Source: Huffington Post

EL CAJON, Calif. — A 32-year-old woman from Iraq who was found severely beaten next to a threatening note saying “go back to your country” died on Saturday.

Hanif Mohebi, the director of the San Diego chapter of the Council on American-Islamic Relations, said he met with Shaima Alawadi's family members in the morning and was told that she was taken off life support around 3 p.m.

“The family is in shock at the moment. They're still trying to deal with what happened,” Mohebi said.

Alawadi, a mother of five, had been hospitalized since her 17-year-old daughter found her unconscious Wednesday in the family's house in El Cajon, police Lt. Steve Shakowski said.

The daughter, Fatima Al Himidi, told KUSI-TV her mother had been beaten on the head repeatedly with a tire iron, and that the note said “go back to your country, you terrorist.” Read More


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Couple Charged in Death of Son, 6
Police said they abused and malnourished Khalil Wimes.

by Phillip Lucas
Date: Mar. 22, 2012,
Source: The Philadelphia Inquirer

A South Philadelphia couple were charged with murder Wednesday after their 6-year-old son died Monday night at Children's Hospital of Philadelphia, police said.

Tina Cuffie, 44, and Latiff Hadi, 48, of 22d Street near McClellan Street, allegedly abused and malnourished their son Khalil Wimes, police said.

"Police informed us that the child was 29 pounds," said Alicia Taylor, spokeswoman for the city Department of Human Services. Citing confidentiality laws, she said she could not discuss the case further.

The median weight of a 6-year-old boy in the United States is about 45 pounds, according to the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.Read More


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Muslim Imams Received Training to address Domestic Violence, VA

Date October 12, 2011

As part of an effort to support ADAMS Center khateebs to address domestic violence during the month of October, an introductory training was provided on September 24 at the ADAMS Center.

Salma Abugideiri, Co-Director of the Peaceful Families Project, and Ambreen Ahmed, Director of FAITH Social Services, provided information about domestic violence to the 10 khateebs who were in attendance.

After a presentation which included statistics, explanation of the types of abuse and their impact, and a review of some suggested talking points, a lively discussion ensued and ended with the khateebs agreeing to participate in a longer, more in depth training.


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Husband Is Charged in N.J. Ambush

By Sean Gardiner & Pervaiz Shallwani
August, 2011
Source: The Wall Street Journal

BOONTON, N.J.—The husband of a 27-year-old mother who was ambushed and fatally shot while walking in a New Jersey suburb was charged Friday with her murder, authorities said.

Kashif Parvaiz was charged along with Antoinette Stephen, a 26-year-old Massachusetts woman with whom he had a "relationship," prosecutors said. Neither has entered a plea in the case.

The pair was accused of plotting an attack that has rattled this small town with a well-entrenched Pakistani-American community, an attack that took place in the midst of the Muslim holy month of Ramadan.

Read more from the source article here.



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Montclair homicide victim's family seeks custody of her daughter Shazmina Khan and her daughter, Samara, posed together for a photo in happier times. On Monday, July 4, Shazmina Khan was found slain in her apartment, and now her siblings seek custody of Samara.

by Linda Moss
Thursday, July 14, 2011
Source: The Montclair Times

A year ago, Shazmina Khan was in England, joyfully celebrating her brother's wedding there. Nearly a year to the day later, the Montclair woman was found slain in her apartment. Now her siblings are desperately trying to get custody of her 8-year-old daughter, Samara Khan.

"I spoke to a few people in the states who were very close to my sister," Nadir Esmail told The Times in a phone call from London. "They have explained that Shazmina, before her death, she had one wish: that if anything happened to her, that her daughter would be sent to the UK, to her family."

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Muslim Liaison Allays Fears

May 16, 2011
Source: Southern Star

As a police liaison officer for metropolitan south region, Sabrina Hadzic knows all about the importance of fostering a harmonious relationship between the Muslim community and police.

Ms Hadzic, a PLO for the Muslim community, was appointed to the role three years ago after graduating from university with a double degree in arts and science, majoring in international relations and psychology. She said a desire to break down misconceptions that some people in the community have of the police and vice versa motivated her to become a PLO.

"Quite a big proportion of the Muslim community actually come from refugee backgrounds so they come from different countries around the world where police often play a different role than they do here in Queensland," she said. "There’s a large amount of fear for police and at times disrespect."

Read more from the source article here.


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Conference Aims to Empower U.S. Muslim Women

By Mike Anton
May 8, 2011
Source: LA Times

Speakers from community groups, the LAPD and State Department said that by knowing and exercising their rights, American Muslim women could become a force against religious and political extremism.

The sounds of Helen Reddy's 1972 anthem to the women's liberation movement, "I Am Woman," filled the Irvine hotel ballroom where several hundred participants gathered Saturday for the American Muslim Women's Empowerment Conference.

The song selection was fitting because the message speakers gave was basically the same as it was four decades ago: Know your rights, and exercise them.

But there was an added twist: By standing up for their rights inside and outside the home, American Muslim women can be a force against religious and political extremism.

While Muslim women in some other parts of the world face forced marriages, honor killings and a lack of political power, those in the United States sometimes struggle against more subtle forms of discrimination — often from within their own male-dominated communities.

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Buffalo's Muslims Battle Stereotypes After Murder

By Dina Temple-Raston
February 21, 2011
Source: NPR

It only took a Buffalo, N.Y., jury an hour earlier this month to find Muzzamil "Mo" Hassan, the founder of a Muslim-oriented suburban television station, guilty of beheading his wife, Aasiya. The killing received national attention not just because it was brutal — but because both the killer and his victim were Muslim.

When Aasiya Hassan was murdered in 2009, some journalists immediately jumped to the conclusion that it was an honor killing — but it wasn't. And the Muslim community in the Buffalo area has been fighting the stereotype for the last two years. Read More


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Purple Hijab Day -
Collective voice for domestic abuse awareness around the globe.

January 21, 2011
Source: Baitul Salaam Network, Inc.

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

PRLog (Press Release)

Saturday, February 12 join your community in supporting the survivors of domestic violence by wearing purple (tie, kufi, scarf), etc. go with a group of friends to pray for an end to domestic abuse. Join the community of Edmonton, CA (Canada) as they hang posters at the public square in that city. Join the Atlanta, GA community on Saturday, February 12 at the Atlanta Masjid of Al-Islam, 560 Fayetteville Rd. at 3:30 pm for program featuring the voices of survivors. This program is coordinated by Muslim Men Against Domestic Violence. Contact Shyam Sriram at iwontjudgeyou@live.com. Read More


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Sheikh Omar Speaks at Domestic Violence Education Summit

November 4, 2010
Source: The Muslim Observer

With the ever increasing cases of domestic violence happening in the American Society, especially most recently occurring in the Muslim & Pakistani families, where a father killed three of his children and a son killed her mother; the Houston Police Officer Muzaffar Siddiqi with the help of his colleagues at the Houston Police Department (HPD) and the Islamic Society of Greater Houston (ISGH)  hosted a Domestic Violence Education Summit at the River Oaks Crown Plaza Hotel located at 2712 Southwest Freeway.

Staff of several local agencies and HPD special department that handles such cases was present. The panelists included: HPD Sergeant Jim Babb; HPD Officer E. J. Joseph of the Community Affairs; Teresa Catillo Crime Victim Liaison HPD; Senior HPD Officer Janette Arceneaux of the Special Crimes Division Domestic Violence; Dr. Lisa Berg Garmezy Staff Psychologist HPD; Dr. Aziz Siddiqi President ISGH; Sheikh Omar Inshanally Imam of ISGH; Eddee Hestand Member of Police & Clergy Team; Celeste Gilliam of the Houston Area Women’s Center; and Lilas Taha of Asians Against Domestic Abuse (AADA).  Read More


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CT Muslims Stand Against Domestic Violence

Written by Tracy Simmons
Sunday, 10 October 2010
Source: Creedible.com

HARTFORD – There are many misconceptions about Islam, including the idea that Muslim men are allowed to beat and dominate their wives. 

The Muslim Coalition of Connecticut took a stand against that fallacy Saturday night as it focused on harmony in the home for its fourth annual leadership banquet.

“A home should be a place of tranquility and security,” said Aida Mansoor, banquet chair.  Read More


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Bollywood Actress Helps Domestic Violence Victims

By Lisa Orkin Emmanuel
Source: The Huffington Post
Published: September 8, 2010

PLANTATION, Fla. Years after Somy Ali left her glamorous life as a Bollywood actress, she heard a knock on her door from a Bangladeshi neighbor, asking for help.

The woman said she'd been sexually and physically abused for a decade by her husband, his father and his brother. Ali paid for the woman's apartment and divorce.

"I said 'There have to be more women like this,'" Ali said.

So she founded a not-for-profit organization called No More Tears Inc. in 2006. So far it has helped 48 women. Ali funds her organization in part by giving 10 percent of the revenue from her clothing company, So-Me Designs.

"These people have become part of my family," she said. "There is nothing more gratifying than rescuing a woman."

Ali's own life reads like a Bollywood script. She grew up in an opulent 26-room mansion in Karachi, the daughter of a Pakistani movie producer father and an Iraqi mother. When Ali was 9, she moved to Florida with her mother and brother.

At 15, she decided that she wanted to marry actor Salman Khan, whom she calls "the equivalent of Brad Pitt in India," and that she wanted to move to India.  Read More


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Imams Learn How to Address Domestic Violence

By Muneeza Tahir
July 20, 2010
Source: Islamic Relief USA

One travelled more than 3,000 miles from California. Another spent over a day in New York amidst cancelled flights and mix-ups. And one more drove more than nine hours from Detroit without rest to arrive in time. They shared the fact that they were Muslim men and imams–religious leaders–but more importantly they were also united against a common and often hushed crisis in their communities: domestic violence.

More than a dozen imams from around the country came to a special workshop, “Preventing and Responding to Domestic Violence,” last weekend at The Fairfax Institute in Herndon, Va., to share, learn and gain effective tools to address domestic violence in their respective communities. Initiated by Peaceful Families Project (PFP), a nonprofit organization devoted to ending domestic violence in Muslim families through awareness workshops for Muslim leaders and communities, the two-day workshop was sponsored by Islamic Relief USA.

“[This is] about learning from each other,” said Imam Mohamed Magid, Executive Director of the All Dulles Area Muslim Society in Sterling, Va.   Read More


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Muslim Foundation Seeks to Help All Domestic Violence Victims
By Jon Vanderlaan,
Source: Plano Star-courier
Published: July 15, 2010

Despite Facing Poor Odds And Rampant Prejudices, A Foundation Is Attempting To Break Through Barriers To Help Women Who Have Been Abused.

The Texas Muslim Women's Foundation, which is based in Plano and was founded in 2005, opened a Resale Sophisticate, a thrift and consignment store, in September 2009 in an attempt to further serve victims of domestic violence.

Hind Jarrah, one of the founders of the organization and the first president of TMWF, said the store's main trouble is attracting customers.
"People need to be aware that we are here," she said. "That is the most important thing. I don't think people know what we are about."

Jarrah said because of the poor economy, it was impossible for the organization to expect donations to support its needs and the needs of those who benefit from the organization. Read More


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Muslim Community Info Session on Domestic Violence, Elder Abuse and Hate Crimes

By Sana Siddiqui,
June 2010
Source: Muslim Youth Canada

Domestic Violence is a complex, tragic and underreported crime across all cultures and societies and unfortunately, the Muslim community is no exception. Recent studies have shown that Muslim women suffer from emotional, physical and financial abuse from their husbands and that physical violence occurs in at least 10% of Muslim families in America (Alkhateeb, 1999; Alkhateeb, 2010; Rianon and Sheldon, 2003).

On June 26th 2010 the Vancouver Police, Family Services of Greater Vancouver and the Muslim community came together to discuss the programs and services available for victims of domestic violence and their families, elder abuse and hate crime. Around 35 Muslim community members attended this information session at Collingwood Neighbourhood House in Vancouver. Also present were support workers from MOSIAC and Vancouver and Lower Mainland Multicultural Family Services.  Read More


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Dunya Maumoon Ready for Battle with Extremists Over Domestic Violence Bill

International news
By Poorna Rodrigo
Source: Asiantribune.com, Male, Maldives
Published: 24 June, 2010

Opposition DRP Women's Wing Chief Dunya Maumoon, the daughter of former President Gayoom, is ready to dare any opposition from "extremist elements" over the upcoming Bill on Domestic Violence.

In an interview with Asian Tribune she did not rule out the possibility of "some extreme-view Islamic scholars" protesting the Bill.

And in the event of any objection, Dunya is ready for a battle.

"I am ready to face any possible opposition to the Bill from conservative elements," she said.

A staunch campaigner for women's rights in the Maldives, she is the prime mover behind the Bill on Domestic Violence, due in Parliament in early July.  Read More


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Queens Person Of The Week: Social Worker Helps Muslim Women Overcome Domestic Abuse

By Rocco Vertuccio
Source: NY1 News
Published: March, 13 2010

Robina Niaz of Turning Point for Women and Families was selected as the Queens Person of the Week by NY1 News. This is a video report about her.  Please click here to watch the video Read More


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Muslim Women's Shelter Provides Refuge, Support

Source:NPR
Published: January 1, 2010

As families come together over the holidays, the victims of domestic abuse are often sequestered in shelters — a situation that's especially difficult for Muslim women, because few facilities meet their cultural and religious needs.

At one home for Muslim women in Baltimore, women from different backgrounds recently gathered in the kitchen to prepare dinner together. Oil splattered on the stove, and Asma Hanif, the woman who runs the center, joked that the night's dinner would be the end of her.

"In Iraq they don't have high cholesterol?" she asks a Kurdish woman standing beside her. "This is going to kill us."    Read More


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Robina Niaz: A CNN Hero

Robina Niaz, the founder of Turning Point for Women and families, an organization helping the victims of domestic abuse in New York City, was selected as CNN Heroes in 2009 and had appeared in Lary King Live for her services to the community.

According to CNN, “When Niaz launched her organization in 2004, it was the first resource of its kind in New York City. Today, her one-woman campaign has expanded into a multifaceted endeavor that is raising awareness about family violence and providing direct services to women in need.

Crisis intervention services are a critical element of Niaz's efforts. Through weekly counseling sessions, she and her team provide emotional support to the women while helping them with practical issues, such as finding homeless shelters, matrimonial lawyers, filing police reports or assisting with immigration issues.

Niaz has helped more than 200 Muslim women. While most of Turning Point's clients are immigrants, the group helps women from every background.”

Please click here to read her full story and watch her video on CNN. Read More

You may also reach her through her organization Turning Point for Women and Families.


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Altamash  Iftikhar: Fighting Abuse with Fashion

Altamash IftikharAltamash Iftikhar is a 25-year-old Muslim American activist who has taken initiative to end domestic violence. This ambitious young man has launched a new non-profit organization, i-appreciate.org, selling T-shirts online against domestic violence.

Kristen Minogue, a reporter for News 21, writes, “A shirt that reads ‘I will appreciate your mind, body and soul’ might seem more appropriate for a yoga class than a weightlifting session. But Altamash Iftikhar wears his to the gym all the time.”

In an in-depth interview by Minogue, “Iftikhar said he welcomes the opportunity to get more people involved, and the part-fashion, part-social action statement makes a good conversation starter.”

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Waheeda Samady: Domestic Violence Does Not Discriminate

By Vivian Moon
Fri, Aug 7, 2009
Source: La Prensa San Diego

Education leads to prevention

Domestic violence crosses all ethnic, social, and economic borders. Dr. Waheeda Samady, a medical resident at UC San Diego, has embarked on a project to fight the on-set of family violence and explore ways to better educate the public on its prevention, focusing on Muslim communities in San Diego. By working with local organizations, Dr. Samady marks the importance of awareness and proactive efforts to maintain respect within families. As a Muslim herself, Dr. Samady also acknowledges the costs of stereotyping minority groups, and the resulting barriers that can make seeking help all the more difficult.   Read More


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Muslim Men Against Domestic Abuse

Mohammad KhalilMuslim Men Against Domestic Abuse was launched in February, 2009, by Mohammad Khalil, an associate professor of religious studies at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign.

According to the organization’s mission statement: Muslim Men Against Domestic Abuse (MMADA) is an organization dedicated to domestic tranquility. By joining our group, you make a commitment never to engage in, support, or remain silent about the physical, psychological, and emotional abuse of Muslim and non-Muslim women and children.

The organization has an online pledge on its site. To this date 113 people have already signed on it. According to Kristen Minogue, a reporter for News 21, “The organization has raised a few eyebrows for singling out men, even from activists who, overall, support the idea. Khalil has said he does not want to establish men as “arbiters of morality,” but he does want to break the stereotype that domestic violence is simply a women’s issue.”

Minogue published an in-depth interview of Khalil on News 21 in August, 2009. Please click here to read the full account of that interview. Read More

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Abbas Jaffer: Rethinking Gender, Islam, and the Quran

Abbas JafferAbbas Jaffer, a young Muslim activist has taken the domestic violence in the Muslim community as one of his top issues to work on. When he was a sophomore at the University of Denver, he founded Men as Allies, an organization of men dedicated to preventing gender violence. 

Kristen Minogue, a reporter of News 21, introduces Jaffer in these words, “Abbas Jaffer isn’t a single-issue activist. Since he entered college, the 23-year-old University of Denver graduate has delved into gang violence and international relations, and even worked for a brief stint in India with Tibetan refugees. But the problem of domestic violence disturbed him early on.

“… Now he works as an associate editor for Altmuslimah.com, an online publication launched in March that explores gender in Islam. His involvement gave him the chance to write about domestic violence in the Muslim community.”

To read Jaffer’s full interview, please click here Read More

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Aasiya Zubair Case Follow Up

Aasiya Zubair and Muzzammil Hassan File PhotoOn February 12, 2009, Bridges TV's CEO and co-owner, Muzzammil Hussain, murdered his wife and co-owner of Bridgess TV, Aasiya Zubair.

Fred O. Williams and Gene Warner, two reporters of Buffalo News, reported:

"Friends expressed shock on Friday that the founder of a Muslim TV channel — which he launched in order to counter violent images of Muslims — has been arrested in his wife’s brutal slaying.

Detectives have charged Muzzammil Hassan, 44, with second-degree murder after his wife was found beheaded Thursday at the offices of the cable channel, Bridges TV, in the Village of Orchard Park.

The victim was identified as Aasiya Z. Hassan, 37."

Since then Buffalo News has been following this case and so are we. This page is dedicated to this case.

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