This blog introduces the concept of emotional literacy and its relevance to the prevention of domestic violence, and includes links to extensive resources for understanding the significance of emotional literacy, and for specific parenting techniques to foster it in children.
This very brief blog post reports on a study concerning a disconnect between claimed expertise and actual knowledge. I suggest that the phenomenon reported on here is quite generalizable --- that is, applies to many fields, not merely the one specifically studies.
The virtue of hilm is more easily practiced in Ramadan. This quality of forbearance is one of the hallmarks of healthy relationships, which are based on increased awareness and sensitivity to our behavior and those of others. Developing healthy relationships needn't be difficult.
Judge Amy Holmes Hehn was presiding over a contentious child custody and parenting-time
case when, On Nov. 10, Ian Elias kicked in the door of the home of his ex-wife,
Nicolette Elias, and shot her to death with a handgun. He took their two young daughters
to his home where he ultimately stepped out into the back yard and shot himself
in the head in front of police. Judge Hehn describes everyone involved in the case
as ‘heartsick’. The legal system, even when it is working ‘right’, can’t prevent
these tragedies. It takes community involvement. Judge Hehn’s perspective, coming
from 27 years of dealing with domestic violence has lessons for us all.
Here we are, sitting in front of
our respective screens, each with our own motivations and intentions, each with
our own life experiences, each of us choosing to spend a few moments – me
in writing these words, you in reading them. Violence in Muslim families is not
a happy topic, and each of us responds to the idea the words conjure in different
ways. Issues like this are daunting, and can seem monumental. But family violence
is a reality, and now that we know it exists in our community we must each make
a decision about how we are going to respond to this knowledge.
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