By Yusra Gomaa (courtesy of
“H-H-Hello, Asalaamu’alaykum. Umm, my name is Amna and I have two young
children. The state is terminating my parental rights, and there’s nothing
I can do. I didn’t know who else to call. I have one month to find someone
before they go up for adoption. Can you please help me find a Muslim to adopt my
children?” The mosque director began a three-week campaign in Tennessee to
find Muslims both willing and qualified to adopt these two children, but found none.
A major problem in handling the issue of family violence is the lack of funding. Although Muslim Americans raise tens of billions of dollars each year, most of this money is sent overseas in the name of relief efforts. Most of what stays home is spent on building mosques and Islamic schools. Domestic violence shelters and social services organizations hardly get any support from the community across the country.
This has to change. We need to learn, as individuals and as a community, to portion our charity. While it is important to help Muslims all over the world, it is obligatory to help the oppressed, the needy, and the vulnerable at home first. We need to understand that the entire world responds to natural disasters and relief efforts in the most cases, but hardly anybody responds to a child or woman abused behind the closed doors. How that money sent overseas is being used/misused and what impact it really makes is a topic of another discussion.
We also need to understand that the future of the Muslim community is only secured by building healthy communities and nurturing healthy individuals. This goal can only be achieved by addressing various issues that a Muslim American family faces today. The active investment in strengthening our families is a long overdue and avoiding it is a communal crime.
Dar al Islam
P.O. Box 180
Abiquiu, NM 87510