Why abused (Muslim) women don't leave their abusive husbands, even though this is America? I'll tell you why...
- They don't know where to look for help.
- They don't want to hurt their parents/disappoint them/have them become the 'talk
of the town'.
- They have children, and feel that they would rather go through hell than subject
their children to the real trauma/social stigma of a break-up/divorce.
- They are scared of mental/physical/legal retaliation from their husbands. One million
times I have heard of men refusing to grant their wives divorce JUST to torture
- They don't have any place to go to after they are divorced, and are not educated
enough/worthy enough by their own standards to find a job that will keep them alive.
- They don't want to be pitied and stigmatized.
- They are 'used' property, and most men don't want a 'second-hand' wife.
- The situation is so bad in most Indo-Pak families that if a sister gets divorced,
her other siblings' chances of getting married will go down drastically too, and
even if they do get married/are already married, their in-laws will just find it
an excuse to label them also as 'dysfunctional'.
- They have so lost their sense of self-worth that even though they may be smart and
highly educated, they don't think they can make it without a 'husband' in this society.
Ever heard the theory of 'learned helplessness'?
I have 9 excuses not to leave my emotionally abusive husband (ain’t physical
as yet)... I'm sure somebody could give u a few more.
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