Behavior & Development

One area where parents often get into trouble is in not knowing what is age-appropraite behavior/development.

Anger Management Strategies for Kids by Dr Michele Borba Great tips for kids -- and for anyone who has trouble managing their anger. Our children are facing much more pressing types of daily stresses than most of us ever dealt with in our childhood. Just think of the kinds of horrific images our kids are exposed to on the nightly news: riots, hate crimes, random shootings, bombings, kidnappings, senseless murders. What can parents do? Teach children the critical virtue of self-control so they know how to handle their emotions appropriately when faced with frustrations.

Purple Crying is the time between when an infant is 2 weeks old and 3-4 months old where they cry a lot. Some parents are told that their babies have colic. It is a difficult time to get through for many parents—and is a time of increased risk for parental frustration being taken out on the infant. offers information and resources to help parents get through this period.

Zero to ThreeZero to Three is a a national nonprofit organization that informs, trains and supports professionals, policymakers and parents in their efforts to improve the lives of infants and toddlers. They focus (as the name suggests) on ages zero through three—and include information on development as well as dealing with challenging behaviors during those ages.

PBSPBS has a wonderful website that deals with school age development.

Virginia Tech - Adolescent Growth and DeveloppmentVirginia Tech has a good list on development of adolescents (13+).

Child Welfare Information GatewayThe Child Welfare Information Gateway is a US Government run site with tons of information on its website. Here are their tip sheets for parents and caregivers.

National Parent HelplineNational Parent Helpline
Parents want to be good parents—but sometimes don't know where to turn to for help. The National Parent Helpline and website really can help. Asking for help, is a sign of strength. Their website is filled with information on parenting as well as state-specific resources. Their helpline provides “emotional support from a trained Advocate” to help you “become empowered and a stronger parent.” 1-855-4A-Parent

Dr. Ross Green - Lives in the BalanceLives in the Balance by Dr. Ross Green
Dr. Ross Greene is a Harvard-based psychologist who has worked with many kids with behavioral issues. He is the originator of the Collaborative Problem Solving (CPS) approach. His philosophy is that “Kids do as well if they can.” Children want to do well, they don’t misbehave to upset us—rather they don’t have the skill-set to act appropriately. His website is filled with lots of free lectures, videos, and materials.

Dr. Ross Green - Lives in the BalanceThe Kazdin Method By Dr. Alan Kazdin
Dr. Alan Kazdin is a Yale-based Professor of Psychology and the Director of Yale’s Parenting Center. He was the 2008 President of the American Psychological Association and is the author of many professional-audience books on child psychology and behavior published in dozens of languages. His website contains lots of free videos and articles, including “Why you shouldn't hit your kids”.

“What’s the single most essential thing you want parents to understand about changing kids’ behavior?”   “I want parents to understand that although they’re not necessarily responsible for whatever behavior problems their child might have, there is much they can do to develop the behavior they do want. You really can change your child’s behavior, and you don’t have to get tougher on your child to do it. In fact, too much harshness is often part of the problem. The book provides concrete, thoroughly tested procedures that are likely to achieve the changes you want, while also freeing you from the sense of constantly being at war with a misbehaving child.”

Dr. Ross Green - Lives in the BalanceAskDrSears
Dr. William Sears is a well-respected pediatrician who literally wrote the book on “Attachment Parentings.” His website has tons of free information—both on medical issues, as well as behavioral. Here’s an article 25 Ways to Talk So Your Kids Will Listen.

Dr. Ross Green - Lives in the Balance17 Things Boys Need From Moms. An article by Kelley Ward, Ph.D. RNC, chock full of various evidence on what boys need. Boys do need to be held. They need to be taught empathy. They need activity. They need limits. (Of course, many of these things apply to girls.)

PBS - Raising a Powerful GirlPBS Parent's Guide to Raising a Powerful Girl



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