Help Yourself

Whether you are a victim, an abuser, a family member, or a concerned friend, you can do something to break the cycle of violence. Change is a process that takes time, and does not come easily. But it is vital you take action now before the situation becomes worse. Find out more about what you can do.

If you are a victim of domestic violence, or the “Warning Signs” describe you, please take care of the following points:

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Ensure your safety.
Call 911 if it's emergency. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-SAFE (7233), 24 hours, toll free.

Seek medical treatment if you are hurt.
It's important that you do not hide anything from doctors and nurses or they will not be able to help you fully. If you have been abused before give that detail to doctors, too.

Know that Allah can make a way out for you.
Allah does not condone the abuse of another human being regardless of his or her religion, ethnicity, age or gender. Family members are supposed to take care of each other not to hurt. You need to stand up to protect yourself and to protect others from the abuser. But you have to be wise and thorough about it. Talk to someone about the problem.
Breaking the silence is the first step in helping yourself. Speak up. Part of the abuser's power comes from secrecy surrounding the abuse. Let people know what is happening so they can look out for you. Any pattern of abuse is a sign of an unhealthy relationship.

Safety Plan
Have a safety plan ready in the event you are abused again. Check out our Safety Plan for you.

Think Independently
Does your behavior feel right or natural to YOU? Are you acting in a certain way because you WANT to, or out of fear for what your abuser might think or do?

Read up on your Legal Rights
There are laws to help and protect you. You may be able to get a protection order. This says the abuser may not harass you or come into contact with you for up to 90 days.

Know that you are not alone.
Abusers often their isolate victims from others and threaten harm if anyone else learns about the abuse. As a result, victims may think they are the only ones involved in this type of relationship. Intimate partner violence happens more than you think, and people are prepared to help.

Know that you are not at fault
Abusers blame their victims as though they deserve to be abused. The perpetrator is ALWAYS responsible for his/her actions. Abusers are completely responsible for their behavior, regardless of their habits or weaknesses.

Record the abuse
Keep records of abuse. This may help you later if you decide to leave.

Know your risks
Check out the list of risks we have compiled for you.

Seek help through prayer and fasting
May Allah make it easy for you.

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