Using the Law
Protection or Restraining Orders:
- Ask your local domestic violence program who can help you get a civil protection
order and who can help you with criminal prosecution.
- Ask for help in finding a lawyer.
In most places, the judge can:
- Order the abuser to stay away from you or your children.
- Order the abuser to leave your home.
- Give you temporary custody of your children and order the
abuser to pay you temporary child support.
- Order the police to come to your home while the abuser picks up
personal belongings.
- Give you possession of the car, furniture and other belongings.
- Order the abuser to go to a batterers intervention program.
- Order the abuser not to call you at work.
- Order the abuser to give guns to the police.
Make sure you:
- Show the judge any pictures of your injuries.
- Tell the judge that you do not feel safe if the abuser comes to
your home to pick up the children to visit with them.
- Ask the judge to order the abuser to pick up and return the children at
the police station or some other safe place.
- Ask that any visits the abuser is permitted are at very specific times
so the police will know by reading the court order if the abuser is there at the
wrong time.
- Tell the judge if the abuser has harmed or threatened the children;
ask that visits be supervised; think about who could do that for you.
- Get a certified copy of the court order.
- Keep the court order with you at all times.