If you are currently being stalked or abused, it may not be safe to view this
website from your home computer.
Your abuser can track your online actions. There is nothing you can do to remove
your tracks completely. If you try to erase your tracks, your abuser might become
If you think you might be in danger we suggest that you use a computer at a public
library, internet café, or a trusted friend’s computer. If your abuser
sends you email, do not open it on your friend’s computer.
If you need help now, call 911 or the:
- U.S. National Domestic Violence Hotline, 1-800-799-7233
- U.S. National Sexual Assault Hotline, 1-800-656-4673
- U.S. National Teen Dating Violence Helpline, 1-866-331-9474
Computers record everything you do. It is IMPOSSIBLE to clear your tracks completely.
Your computer stores hundreds of bits of information about everything you do with
your computer, including information about which websites you’ve visited,
your passwords, and what your emails say. Your abuser can readily track the websites
you visit or read your email messages.
If you suspect your activities are being monitored, they probably are.
Abusive people are often controlling and want to know your every move. You don’t
need to be a computer programmer or have special skills to monitor someone’s
computer activities. Anyone can do it, and there are many ways to monitor your activities—even
without having direct access to your computer.
If you must use a computer that your abuser knows about, we suggest “safer”
Internet surfing. For example, if you are planning to flee to California, don’t
look just at California web pages for jobs, apartments, bus tickets, etc. Look for
the same information in at least a half dozen other states, too.
Email is not a safe or confidential way to communicate.
Sending email is like sending a postcard through the mail. Anyone along the path
can read what it says. If you need to talk to someone about the danger or abuse
in your life, if possible, please call a hotline instead.
If you must use email to discuss your situation, we suggest you use an account that
your abuser doesn’t know about. Set up a new account with a free email service
like hotmail, yahoo, or gmail.
DO NOT use a name or password that contains any identifying information (no names,
nicknames, initials, birthdates, zip codes, etc.) Instead, use a name and password
that contains a random mix of letters, CAPITAL letters and numbers (for example,
Make sure you can remember the user name and password. If you must write it down
somewhere, put it in a place your abuser is unlikely to find it.
If the computer asks if you would like it to save your password or login information,
tell it NO.