Using the Law
Protection or Restraining Orders:
- Ask your local domestic violence program who can help you get a civil protection
order and who can help you with criminal prosecution.
- Ask for help in finding a lawyer.
In most places, the judge can:
- Order the abuser to stay away from you or your children.
- Order the abuser to leave your home.
- Give you temporary custody of your children and order the
abuser to pay you temporary child support.
- Order the police to come to your home while the abuser picks up
- Give you possession of the car, furniture and other belongings.
- Order the abuser to go to a batterers intervention program.
- Order the abuser not to call you at work.
- Order the abuser to give guns to the police.
Make sure you:
- Show the judge any pictures of your injuries.
- Tell the judge that you do not feel safe if the abuser comes to
your home to pick up the children to visit with them.
- Ask the judge to order the abuser to pick up and return the children at
the police station or some other safe place.
- Ask that any visits the abuser is permitted are at very specific times
so the police will know by reading the court order if the abuser is there at the
- Tell the judge if the abuser has harmed or threatened the children;
ask that visits be supervised; think about who could do that for you.
- Get a certified copy of the court order.
- Keep the court order with you at all times.